How positive thoughts change habits


The mind is the destroyer and creator of a life worth living

The above means, that it doesn't really matter so much, to the brain, if our thoughts are negative or positive because they both influence the way it processes sensory stimuli (and/or any stored memory of such a combination of that stimuli). For us though, it matters very much and the result is what we know as either, emotions, feelings or a certain type of behaviour. And the more often these stimuli are present, the stronger the potential of the behaviour to become a habit. under the right circumstances, this can lead to forms of neural conditioning (classical/Pavlovian conditioning).

Some, if not most, behaviours are conditioned from birth and others throughout our lifetime, e.g. the things we are told or observe by parents, teachers, peers, authority figures, even friends. This conditioning ultimately forms our belief system and the more attached or connected we are to those beliefs serves only to enhance them! This plays out through what is known as confirmation bias, the brain looks for evidence to support its beliefs and ignores, mostly, evidence to the contrary. Essentially we see what we expect to see!

From the day we are born we unwittingly join a worldwide community; one that is predominantly influenced by the beliefs of people we respect or fear. Be they advocates of religion or the rule of law; both set out to condition our behaviour. Religion, for the most part, uses fear; if you sin you will pay for the transgression in the afterlife. The rule of law is no different; except your punishment falls within this lifetime. In some countries, the two events can occur simultaneously via the death penalty!

It seems that this develops as we acquire language and over time, we somehow learn to adopt a subconscious mode of self-talk that is very often steeped in vague. ambiguous or negative undertones. In my many years of experience as a clinical hypnotherapist, I have never had a client presenting with anxiety, stress or confidence/self-esteem issues, whose self-talk was predominantly positive and it is the same here in my Singapore hypnotherapy practice, as it was in the UK, stress and negative self-talk is seemingly universal? It seems that stress, anxiety and negative self-talk go hand in hand; just like strawberries and cream or honey and lemon!

Because cognition and emotion are inextricably linked, one mode of subconscious language (negative or positive) influences the other. Negative emotions create negative thoughts and feelings and vice-versa. It appears to be, that once you’ve got stinking thinking, you’ve generally got a negative perception of yourself and a life experience to match. 

It is because of this linguistic anomaly that I pay careful attention to your everyday language, the words, tone and inflexion. This is one reason my sessions are longer than most, I then introduce an awareness of the negative influences in your spoken language and this continues holistically into the therapeutic interventions. Having a good level of conscious awareness about your verbal and non-verbal negative self-talk, simply means you now have the conscious and subconscious drivers of new ways of thinking, ways of thinking that are naturally inclined towards creating a linguistically correctional neural input and it goes to work deep, through your subconscious mind and ends up stored as memories within your brain itself; this the brain becomes the seat of mindful living! 

Additionally, I teach easy to learn strategies that make life a joy, you will wake up in the morning; wanting to jump out of bed, eager to get going! Because once you are up and out of bed, you are in charge! You cannot control what others say or do, but you can influence it, your true strength lays in the way you choose to respond.

Life is all about choices, the better you are at managing life; the more you learn to make better choices!