Build Self-Confidence NOW?

Let Trans4mational Therapy put Confidence back into your Life NOW! Confidence Breeds Success. . Success Breeds Confidence!

The loss or lack of confidence is one of the most debilitating experiences we can face; everyone deserves to have Self-Confidence!

Follow the T4T programme and have super Confidence; take your rightful place in Life and Living!

The loss or lack of confidence is sometimes the result of a catastrophic event in our life, loss of a loved one, divorce, redundancy, an abusive relationship, bullying etc. and sometimes a result of our early years and perhaps being exposed to relationship difficulties within the family unit................... or perhaps as a result of some traumatic event(s). During the 9/11 attack on the US ordinary people who were not connected with the event suffered its consequences. Some lost the confidence to feel safe or secure. Others lost confidence in other areas of their lives. It's as if these types of event paralyse our senses and have a great effect on our life.

The lack or loss of confidence can affect our ability to properly fit in socially, or affect the way we interact with others. It can reduce our chances of promotion or advancement because we are perceived as being weak or ineffectual (not leadership material). And it can affect our life in many insidious ways!

But whatever the cause, confidence is as much a basic need as is breathing. Being confident is a life supporting part of being human. If we are confident we can better support our physical and emotional needs. Our mind and body is better balanced. We have less conflict between ourselves and others; in general we suffer less stress, are more relaxed and find life less threatening.

Whether you have lost your confidence or felt that you never had it in the first place; you can learn to have confidence in all areas of your life.

Most people have, at some time in their life, experienced situational or occupational confidence but what about global confidence? I believe confidence is about the totality of being confident in the process of living; having confidence in the what, who and why of who you are RIGHT NOW!

Here is a list of some symptoms that can be experienced by people lacking in confidence. These may result from relationship difficulties or dysfunctional thinking, trauma, stress and many other causes.

• Feelings of low self- esteem (perhaps as a result of being criticised. bullied, rejected)

• Perpetuated by judging ourselves and others harshly.

• We try to cover poor opinions of ourselves by being perfectionistic, controlling, contemptuous and gossipy.

• We tend to isolate ourselves, out of fear, often feel uneasy around other people, especially authority figures.

• We are desperate for love and approval and will do anything to make people like us.

• Not wanting to hurt others, we remain "loyal" in situations and relationships even when evidence indicates our loyalty is undeserved.

• Intimidated by angry people and personal criticism. Causing us to feel inadequate and insecure.

• We live life as victims, blaming others for our circumstances, and are often attracted to other victims (and people with power) as friends and lovers.

• We confuse love with pity, tend to "love" people we can pity and rescue. (we confuse love with need)

• We are either super-responsible or super-irresponsible. We take responsibility for solving others' problems or expect others to be responsible for solving ours.

• This enables us to avoid being responsible for our own lives and choices.

• We feel guilty when we stand up for ourselves or act in our own best interests.

• We give in to others' needs and opinions instead of taking care of ourselves.

• We deny, minimise or repress our feelings as a result of our trauma.

• We are unaware of the impact our inability to identify or express our feelings has on our adult lives.

• A dependent personality so terrified of rejection or abandonment who stays in situations or relationships that are harmful.

• Fear and dependency prevent ending unfulfilling relationships or entering fulfilling ones.

• Denial, isolation, control, shame, and inappropriate guilt can be legacies from our family or peers, resulting in feeling hopeless and helpless.

• We have difficulty with intimacy, security, trust, and commitment in our relationships.

• Lack clearly defined personal limits or boundaries; become enmeshed in relationships of all kinds.

• We tend to procrastinate and have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.

Whilst it is common for people to have the perception, of having no confidence; it is very rare for this to be the case. In reality, people often lack confidence in certain areas of their life. This can be the result of a lack of experience or no knowledge of the subject; or, the result of a bad experience!

Confidence is both possible and highly desirable; don’t allow this life limiting condition to rob you of the opportunities that life has to offer!

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